Are you a woman who'd rather stay quiet and go without, rather than ask a man for what you want? Sadly, you're not alone. Society raises women to think of other people first, so it's no wonder we feel that our needs are not important. If you don't have the confidence to ask for what you want, doing so can seem as frightening or as painful as a root canal. But if you don't ask, how will you ever get what you need? It's like hearing a constant "no." Any relationship, and especially marriage, requires the art of compromise. You have to express your needs if you're going to create a life with someone. It's the only way to take a relationship from "just dating" to "happily ever after." Don't despair—you just have to learn what works. Once you do, you'll actually enjoy expressing your wants and needs.