Your book is dedicated to your brother, who you call the family's "morality meter." How did your relationship with your brother change as you both cared for your parents?
Like many siblings we were in conflict about how to give our parents the best possible ending. He wanted to do everything he could to prolong our ailing mother's life. I didn't. He wanted a rabbi at my father's bedside at the end even when my father wasn't into it. So I resented him for so much those last years. Yet I could not have endured without him. We were a team. We did our best, as I like to say, each in our own way. And from my brother I learned how much death is for the living to make their own. He loved our parents so much with a fierce kind of grace that sometimes bristled but was always with the best intentions.
