Tip 6: Be Geographically Conscious #ops
Lockhart: So the second date. BL, you once counseled me on a second date where geography became a major consideration. If I recall correctly, the debate was between two West Village restaurants — and one in Tribeca.
Ben: So, just to put a cap on the first date, I think the gentleman as a rule knows that there is only downside to overplaying his hand. To making any real move. So, geography doesn’t really matter. In fact, it can’t matter. But, second date, maybe you want to start thinking about #ops.
Me: In your dating history, have you guys ever had a woman plan the date? Early on?
Lockhart: I certainly have. One woman faxed — yes, faxed — me a map to a location in Williamsburg.
Me: ha!
Ben: so hot.
Lockhart: We saw the Wilco movie on a rooftop. Fantastic date. Total strong move. This was 2003, mind you. Williamsburg was still…exotic? even dirtier?
Ben: Yeah, I think the caveat to this whole conversation is that it’s great when the woman wants to plan. It’s just that if you can see that she doesn’t, you need to be on point.
Me: agreed. Okay, so, geography is — if not the determining factor, a consideration?
Ben: well, so, if you know the girl lives in the west village, make it easy for her. I think the second date, the gentleman still wants to be a gentleman on the second date. But if she lives in the West Villlage, have a nice dinner over there and walk her home.
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