The Beginner's Guide To Phone Sex

How do you suggest someone approaches Phone or FaceTime sex for the First time? 

CK: If you want to try phone or FaceTime sex — and especially during these rampant self-isolations and quarantines, why not, right? – I’d say get into your phone sex “character.” This is the version of yourself that is in touch with what gets you off and doesn’t self-censor. Being shut-in at home without a lot to do is the perfect opportunity to let your inner freak out. Just remember: Phone sex is all about the fantasy, so let yourself explore all your wildest daydreams and resist the urge to feel shy about it. And I recommend keeping things simple and starting with phone sex before graduating to FaceTime sex.

SA: If you feel weird or awkward about trying phone or FaceTime sex, I suggest approaching it like you would actual sex - get your partner in the mood, don’t go too fast, pay attention to signals. If you start at wanting to choke me (unless this is something we discussed earlier), it’s gonna be hard to keep escalating. I do like to be choked though, so don’t be afraid to get there if your partner is giving you signals like “harder” and “choke me.” Also, remember that the fantasy element of this is not only being turned on by the other person, but being turned on by yourself. Take a minute to appreciate how damn sexy you are.

What do you suggest for mental prep for phone sex? 

CK: Step one is get turned on. If things are heading into phone sex territory, you’re probably either already in a relationship or you’ve been sending each other some pret-tay, pret-tay explicit texts. If you’re in the latter camp, you’re probably rip-roaring and ready to go. If you’re in a long-distance scenario with your partner, spend a little time getting in the mood solo before hopping on the phone.

SA: I think getting a little horny beforehand is key. If you’re the kind of person that uses their imagination, start picturing your partner undressing and touching you before you get on the phone. Sometimes a little porn or some erotic stories will do the trick. I also really like taking a bath beforehand - you feel more sensitive and tender all over, plus you’re relaxed.

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