I'm having a destination wedding. There are 5 bridesmaids, one of whom, who we can call Becca, has a very young toddler child. She is the only person in the wedding party with a kid. The entire time, we talked about the week leading up to the wedding being a sort of "girls only" week. Becca is about 14 weeks pregnant, so she was fine with being a DD for us. We figured that since she's married to the father of her child, that she would leave them home with them. We thought she would want time to not be "on" as a mother.

Low and behold, who steps out of the plane this morning? Becca and her child. She says that her husband will "fly in the night before the wedding" and that she "wanted the time to bond with [kid's name] before the new baby." We were salty.

We still need a DD, so suddenly we have a baby accompanying all of the bachelorette plans. We have no idea how we're going to alter our plans. Uber isn't a thing here, and as it's a foreign country where we largely don't speak the language, getting a babysitter isn't an option.

Becca doesn't see the issue as she "has the car seat" for a rental car and "has to be sober anyway". I'm NOT okay with having wild nights where a baby is present. I don't know that I could let anyone else get sloppy drunk either. we now can't go to strip clubs unless they're extremely sketchy enough to let a CHILD in. We can't go to many bars. Ugh!

Becca completely ruined the bachelorette week, and I don't think I'm wrong to be furious about this. She's usually a good mother and was before this my most loyal friend who would move mountains to help out. But apparently she just has a massive gap in logical thinking that I didn't realize.

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